2 Broadcaster Press April 2, 2019 www.broadcasteronline.com The Ultimatum Dave Says Preparing For The Real World Dear Dave, I’m getting married this summer and about become a stepfather, but my fiancé’s daughter from a previous marriage seems very irresponsible. She’s 20 and lives at home, has trouble holding a job, and she doesn’t really want to work. When she doesn’t have money to make her car payment, she seems to expect her mom to pay it for her. My fiancé and I both agree that she’s been too lenient with her in the past, but she doesn’t want to suddenly pull Dave the rug out from under her. How do you think we should approach this situation? Kendall to her initially. Neither of you wants to create a scenario where you’re viewed as the bad guy. Let her mom start the process by explaining that she made a few mistakes in terms of teaching her more about personal responsibility and self-reliance when she was younger. Then, she can begin to lay out the first few rules and expectations. In my mind, there’s nothing wrong with requiring her to get a job within 30 days if she doesn’t already have one. If she needs to go job hunting, make sure she’s out of bed and on the road no later than 8:00 a.m. every morning. During this first phase, looking for work every day should be her job. It wouldn’t be a bad idea to start teaching her about budgeting, saving, and everything else that goes into handling money responsibly during this time, too. Next, phase two might consist of requiring her to help around the house doing chores on her days off, or whenever mom needs a hand. Then, after a month or two of this, phase three might consist of her paying a small amount in rent. Dear Kendall, Do you see what I’m doing? By stepping up the expecMarriage counselors say you have a good chance of tations gradually you’re building a foundation so she’ll having a successful marriage if you’re in agreement on have the tools and knowledge to where, in the sixth or four things—religion, money, children, and in-laws. So, seventh month, she’s moving out and taking care of her first things first. I’d strongly suggest you and your fiancé own responsibilities. go through pre-marital counseling to make sure you’re on Like an adult! the same page when it comes to handling this and other —Dave issues. If you and her mom really want to show her you love her, you’ll make sure she starts learning some character and discipline. And it’s very important that both of you * Dave Ramsey is America’s trusted voice on money and are on the same page and in agreement every step of the business, and CEO of Ramsey Solutions. He has authored way. You might also want to read a book together by Dr. seven best-selling books, including The Total Money MakeoHenry Cloud called “Boundaries.” This is a great book, ver. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 12 million and it will give you both several ideas for creating a listeners each week on 575 radio stations and multiple digital reasonable timeline aimed at teaching her more responplatforms. Follow Dave on Twitter at @DaveRamsey and on sibility. the web at daveramsey.com. I would advise letting her mom present any changes RAMSEY U.S. Attorney's Office Collects Over $2.1 Million In Civil And Criminal Actions For U.S. Taxpayers In Fiscal Year 2018 United States Attorney Ron Parsons announced that the District of South Dakota collected $2,163,413.25 in Fiscal Year (FY) 2018 from civil and criminal actions. Of this amount, $1,457,048.53 was collected in criminal actions, and $706,364.72 was collected in civil actions. 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They all play the piano, and most play multiple other instruments. My musical talent is limited to playing the radio. For those who know my brothers and sister and my parents, my lack of musical talent may come as a surprise. All my siblings are quite talented, especially on the piano. Many of them play for church and community events. My mother taught piano to hundreds of people over the years. So how could one of her sons end up so lacking in this area? As a boy growing up, there were cows to milk morning and night, plus lots of other chores to do. There was also only one piano, and I had six brothers and three sisters. Along with our practice, my mother taught piano lessons almost every evening after school and on Saturdays, too. That meant the piano had little chance to rest before the next person was playing. My parents worked out a tight schedule for my brothers, sisters, and me to practice piano. The boys in the family were expected to start learning the piano by the time we were five, the same time we started doing farm chores. Because there were so many chores to do after school, and Mom was teaching her students piano, my brothers and I had to trade off mornings doing chores with mornings of piano practice. Of all the people that my mother tried to teach, I was surely the one who tried her patience the most. When it was my morning to practice piano, my mother would get me started then leave to do her own work. But the minute she walked out of the room, my attention would turn to anything but the little dots and lines on the page. It wouldn’t be long before I would hear her call, “I can’t hear any piano playing!” I would jump back up on the bench and play for a minute or two, only to be drawn quickly away by something more interesting. My parents tried bribes, threats, and just about anything they could to get me to practice, but it seemed so boring to me. 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The bedroom I slept in on the north of the house was so cold my breath came out in steam as I climbed out of bed. It was my morning to practice, so after breakfast I reluctantly, but dutifully, sat down at the piano. That was when my father came to me. “Son, your mother says you don’t concentrate on your piano practice. Well, it’s forty degrees below zero outside. You can either sit in here in a warm house and diligently practice piano like your mother wants, or you can forget all about practicing the piano and get outside and do chores.” I couldn’t believe he was giving me a choice. He never had before. I felt so happy. “Thanks, Dad,” I said. I got up off that bench, put on my work clothes, and went outside. And I never looked back at piano practice again. It wasn’t until years later, when I thought about that experience and the shocked look on my father’s face, that I realized that was not the outcome he had expected. 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